Quote: “Entitlement can be a strategy to avoid growth and face fears. Embracing the challenges that come with deserving the desired experience is the path to growth.”
Unconscious Belief 1: How I see life, is the way life is
The premise of this belief assumes that what you see in life, in others, and in yourself reflects the truth of what’s really there. If you see something as negative, then you believe that “it is” negative; the same goes for positive.
The fundamental discovery here is the realization that you are not experiencing something “out there” (life, others, or the self you think you are). Instead, you are experiencing your perception of those things. With this false assumption (belief), it leads you to blame whatever experience you’re having (positive or negative) on external factors.
Insight
Life is not how I see it. Life is a landscape for me to see how I see, so I can heal how I see.
Unconscious Belief 2: My emotions tell me what’s true
The mind is constantly trying to make sense of things. It does this by telling stories, which is like trying to put the pieces together in a way that makes sense. However, if our sense-making is not aligned with what’s true, then our attempts to do something about it are like wrestling a dream. We expend a lot of energy thinking we are doing something, but nothing is happening.
My emotions are not telling me what’s true about life, others, or me; they are showing me the beliefs and assumptions that I am carrying within myself.
Insight
Emotions are not enemies but teachers. Every emotional experience is actually trying to support your human journey.
Unconscious Belief 3: I’m entitled to what I want
For so many years of my life, I assumed that what I wanted should be given to me easily or should just happen without any effort. The experience you deserve to have is the experience you have grown into. If you are having the experience you’re having, then you deserve that experience.
Don’t Fool Yourself
I say this from painful experience, and also I’m just talking to myself:
“Don’t fool yourself, Tiger; growing into the experiences you would like to have is not a free and smooth ride. If you’re going to GROW, you’re going to have to face your fears and make some difficult decisions that stretch beyond your current comfort zone.”
In my previous and current fears, there is a tendency to downplay the sincerity of what I want to experience because… I fear the reality of having to face my fears if I am going to grow into that experience.
Insight
Entitlement can be a strategy to avoid growth and face fears. Embracing the challenges that come with deserving the desired experience is the path to growth.
Honorable Mentions
Here are seven other common unconscious beliefs that can limit the human experience:
- My worth is based on my achievements
- I am not good enough as I am
- I have no control over my life.
- Change is scary and should be avoided
- It is not safe to trust others
- I must always put others’ needs before my own
- I am defined by my past and cannot change
Conclusion
My intention is to reveal the opportunities that limiting beliefs point towards. All unconscious limiting beliefs give away your power. However, by making small adjustments and improvements, you can regain your power and start to grow. For me, reflecting on these things makes life more playful. It’s like being on an epic journey of learning and discovery that shows how deeply connected I am to everything I experience.
