As it relates to the experience of allowing for what is desired, there is an important realization that opens us up to receive… more. What it comes down to is our level of painful attachment to it; the more we anxiously want it, the more we are actually pushing it away.
Allowing for what is desired, is more about an openness within us that invites it into our experience. This openness is very playful in nature. In fact, the more seriousness that’s involved, the less openness we will feel within ourselves.
The seriousness arises because we assume our worth and value are wrapped around the desired experience. As in… “If only I had this or that, then I could be more whole and complete.” Naturally, this assumption sees yourself as incomplete presently, which is also to see yourself as unworthy of the desired at this moment. This pushes away the desired and creates an imaginary distance or difficulty that feels you must prove your worth and value. The consequence is the inevitable struggle that believes effort and willpower are required, rather than a deep understanding that LIFE is already here to support your experience and/or your connection with the heart’s deepest resonance.
It’s like… Do it on your own, or Do it with Life.
To do it on your own is where the struggle is. To do it with Life is where the playfulness is.
Understandably, we get so afraid of not getting it, that we simply don’t trust Life, and we push away it’s support, saying… “I can’t relax and trust life, so I might as well do this on my own.”
Okay, here’s the thing. We are totally allowed and free to struggle our way through and try to… egocentrically do it on our own. Not wrong, not bad, you’re free. However, there is also the opportunity to open ourselves up and allow for things to unfold.
What I find important to recognize, that allows for more openness, is recognizing that what I think I want or desire, doesn’t really have the importance I’m giving it. This importance, of course, is that my worth and value are wrapped around it. As in… “If I don’t get it, then it somehow means I’m less than.” This is huge, really, because, in our adorable confusion, we run around trying to accomplish things in an effort to become more whole or more worthy of Love.
Here is another… profound point, if we are looking to the outcome to give us wholeness or more love, then we are proclaiming that ‘thing’ or outcome has the power to make us whole. We see it as powerful, a power that’s separate from what we are. It separates us from our inherent power, and, in TRUTH, it simply doesn’t have that power!
This invites a meditative moment, where we acknowledge the power we are giving away, and then we release that ‘thing’ or outcome. It’s almost like forgiving it, as we see we were blaming it for withholding our wholeness from us. Do you see that? It’s like… “Wow, I see that I’m looking to you to complete me. I see you as having the key, and I’m demanding that you do what I want, rather than simply letting you BE the beauty of what you are.”
This is, clearly, an inner energy of openness, where we release it, we realize an openness to play with it rather than making it our prisoner, which only creates an energy of fearful seriousness.
That’s a great start… to meditate on releasing the blame, forgiving it, and seeing how you don’t ‘need’ it in order to be whole and complete.
Let’s play…
I might get overwhelmed with emails and might not be able to respond to everyone, but that’s okay, I’m super curious to hear your sincerity on this matter; it will help me speak more directly about this issue.
As a note of encouragement… There’s a real opportunity here; an opportunity to open ourselves to the magic of Life, a magic that, really, is about our deep connection with all that is. On the surface of things, and through our confused conditioning, there are so many assumptions, beliefs, and patterns that simply don’t see this magic and trap us in a very limited way of experiencing this gift of being alive. Not wrong, not bad, just innocently confused.
You ARE worthy of this connection because… the connection is already there, we are simply on a journey of remembering that, and relaxing into a grace that wholeheartedly supports our human journey.
Love you and your beautiful heart,
Hugs
— Tiger
