This can always be a bit of a sensitive topic for people, exploring how we limit ourselves in believing we are a victim. Naturally, writing about this will result in a higher unsubscribe rate. However, that’s perfect, as it keeps me connected with people who genuinely desire to see beyond this adorable insanity and transform their lived experience.
Disclaimer: This is me talking to me. You’re welcome to listen in.
What is the experience of believing you are a victim?
Firstly, this exists within us all, and it is more of an opportunity than it is a problem. In fact, that sentence describes my point perfectly.
Are you a victim of “feeling like a victim?” Are you so confused that it is a problem, or, can you see that you are confused, and it is an opportunity to invite a profound clarity that allows for more love, compassion, and freedom in your life?
If you are a victim of feeling like a victim, there is zero openness to invite clarity. And, it is at this point, that you choose to unsubscribe. 😂
When we feel like a victim, it feels like there is something ‘out there,’ that is responsible for:
- our belief that we are not enough
- our belief that we are disadvantaged
- or the distance from the experience we crave
That someone, ‘out there,’ can even be directed toward yourself. Right? You see, you look at yourself, and see a self that is responsible for the ‘problem.’ This is self-victimization.
It is also safe to say that all feelings of being a victim, at the core, are really self-victimization, it is just projected outwardly, so we do not have to see or acknowledge that. Yet, at the same time, given the nature of the illusion of separation, where it looks like there are two, instead of all things being one, it makes perfect and compassionate sense that someone would perceive being a victim.
HOWEVER, the victim implies two.
Where all is ONE, the concept of victim does not make any sense at all. This includes victimizing yourself, which still implies two.
So… I don’t want to hear about how I’m victim-blaming, I’m saying there is no victim; all is one. To say I’m victim-blaming/shaming is a poor attempt to survive the concept of victim, to keep one’s self safe from having to take accountability for the stories being created within what I am. This is also to keep one at a distance from their own power to shift this confusion and have a real-life “holy shit” moment that completely transforms how they live their life.
Can you please contemplate this for a moment…
- In what ways am I seeing myself as a victim, and what types of opportunities am I also pushing away by doing so?
- Am I hiding behind my stories of being a victim, so I don’t have to open up and let my light shine?
- Beyond these silly, but understandable, misunderstandings… is there a real opportunity for me to experience more love, compassion, and freedom… in THIS LIFE I’m living?
The Opportunity, Here
Whether it’s a minor or massive opportunity, it doesn’t really matter. The point is, can we be more honest with ourselves? This self-honesty is what opens the door to victory; in fact, it may be the first victory that leads to so many others.
Just take a moment to deeply acknowledge it, and have a “holy-shit” moment that is more amazed by it than thinking it’s wrong or should not be. Instead, be fascinated by the reality of these misunderstandings that limit our human experience.
It’s okay, and because it’s okay, we don’t have to fight it or judge it; we can open up to it and then see beyond it.
