Sure, it’s nice to touch upon an insight or discovery that exposes the beautiful simplicity of Life. Yet, the sense of wellness discovered can quickly be overtaken by the raw realities of being human. The loss of a loved one or watching someone you love struggle painfully, or when the unexpected flips your world upside down. There are infinite things that could happen that seemingly make all the discoveries or spiritual language seem null and void.
You know, beyond all the beautiful words and all the ways we can look beyond the dream, the most important thing I could ever say is: “I love you, and I’m sorry if you’re hurting.” Maybe followed up with an invitation for a warm hug and a few moments of just sitting together.
There’s this playful challenge I encounter when sharing with a group of people, and that is the realization that everyone is in different places in their lives, and the words I use will be, and can be, interpreted differently in a massive way. I might say something that invites a powerful realization for one person, and for another, they experience deep pain, a trauma response, or it’s completely taken out of context.
I like this playful challenge, as it teaches me about sensitivity and tuning into a communication that is beyond words. It feels as though I’m sharing a feeling of love and support, rather than a message that must be understood.
Additionally, it’s not uncommon that the mind, unconsciously, uses spiritual language as a way of defending an ego. Because of this, I want to say something here that I’ve said before: The discoveries and pointers you encounter, are only for you.
For example, we could clearly show how the world is our projection, and nothing is personal. Then, someone comes along and shares their frustration with you. The mind might be tempted to say, “well, that’s just your projection, and you’re taking it personally.”
Be careful here, please. The insight isn’t meant to be used as a weapon that defends against an attack. The insight is there to show you… “It’s okay.” Furthermore, if it is all your projection, then someone else saying anything at all is also your projection. So at best, you’re having a projection about someone else having a projection.
If we are not careful, it’s easy to let spiritual insight strip us from the raw experience of being human, and… the beautiful opportunity of holding a loving space for others who are struggling through the journey; without any projections that think they should be more spiritual.
The real transcendence of the human experience is to fully allow the human experience. When I look at my own human difficulty, it often becomes way worse because I think it’s not okay to… just be human, to be what I am at any given moment. Do you see this? It’s the idea that you’re getting it wrong that intensifies the struggle and ultimately creates even more inner violence.
Love says… “I love you, regardless.” It doesn’t say… “I love you if you act how I want you to act, or see what I want you to see.”
I hope to get back to the weekly free meditations by next Monday.
Happy new year
~Tiger 🐯
